1. honorable in principles, intentions, and actions; upright and fair: an honest person.
2. showing uprightness and fairness: honest dealings.
3. gained or obtained fairly: honest wealth.
4. sincere; frank: an honest face.
5. genuine or unadulterated: honest commodities.
First off, I do not have one particular person in mind while I write this.. this has happened to me with pretty much every body in my life at some point or another.. just needing some clarity on the subject.. get some feedback on how others view this as well..
With that said.. I have been thinking about honesty A LOT lately.. and how it is taught to us at a very young age, well, most of us anyway :) It then occurred to me that although it is something I was taught early on and have prided myself in being an honest person, I have found that I am not as honest as I once thought.. but I'm not sure if its a bad thing or maybe a good thing..
It is easy being honest when it comes to like taxes, applications, being honest in my marriage etc. things like that but in the everyday things.. the things that can hurt a person's feelings, a relationship that you hold dear, etc. those types of things are the ones that kill me.. the small things that get to you but you push to the side for the sake of others "peace" or "feelings" .. all the while pushing your "peace" and "feelings" to the back burner until eventually you are faced with THE decision.. to be honest or not be honest.. that really is the question!!
Let's backtrack.. I can think of some times where honesty has really gotten me somewhere and turned a situation that wasn't so good into one that was.. on the other hand, I have been honest about my feelings and had them completely blow up in my face and lost precious people who were dear to me.. so I am not sure what MY best policy is. Do you hold it forever for the sake of feelings or do you get it out to save your sanity and possibly the relationship?!?!?! It has been my experience that the longer I hold things in that bother me, more things tend to makes it way onto the list and I eventually withdraw myself completely/begin to not care anymore for the sake of not hurting people I care about. Again, not so sure if this is the right response or not.. How do ya'll deal? What do you do? I feel lost when it comes to these things..
I will say this though.. I would rather someone be honest with me up front about things that are bothering them, or they have done something they need to be truthful about or if I have done something to hurt them etc. because how can I fix something that I don't know needs fixing.. but not all people feel this way.. I realize that..
I feel as though I am babbling on now so I think I will end here.. sorry to be "Debbie Downer" but this has really been bothering me and a friend told me to blog about it so here it is..
I APPRECIATE ANY AND ALL ADVICE!! :) THANKS!
