There are NO grey areas... LIFE or DEATH!

So this blog is going to be different from previous ones.. this one may make people mad at me, dislike me, unfriend me on FB, etc but it is something I have to do for my own sanity!! So read if you will but proceed with knowing that you more than likely will not like all I have to say but I will not apologize for my feelings and convictions... With that being said..

Last night I could NOT for the life of me fall asleep. As most of everyone in MS knows we are facing a possible historic ballot come November 8! I have to say I am completely SHOCKED by the number of opposers out there.. I knew for sure that when word got out about saving the lives of innocent babies that it would go through for sure here in the Bible belt of MS.. boy have I been wrong!! When I read all the posts out there about how "I am voting "NO" because it takes away birth control, or it makes a rape victim have the baby, or it will do away with IVF, or any other EXCUSE you could possibly come up with I am SAD, ANGRY, IRRITATED, FRUSTRATED, APPALLED, DISGUSTED, and this list goes on!

I had tons of time to get alone with my thoughts last night and the more I thought the more I wanted to get on top of the tallest building in the world and scream to the top of my lungs!!! WHY?!?! Why would people say "I am Pro-Life but I cannot make myself vote yes to something with such grey areas... I am by no means Pro-Abortion... but think about it .. what you just said and what you are voting NO on is basically saying.. I am PRO-CHOICE!! That my friends is the SAME thing in my book!! A Pro-Life person views life as just that, LIFE, no matter what the cost! To me, a child's life is far more valuable than ANY OTHER THING IN THIS WORLD!! God gave women, only women, the most beautiful gift of being able to carry a child and nurture it.. the most safest place for a baby has now become the most hostile, in its own mother's womb.. and guess what folks.. that is on us!! We have stood by year after freaking year and said it's not a baby, a woman has rights.. blah blah blah!! Yea, I'm on a soap box but this is one issue that has always gotten me fired up and I am really fired up because of all the outrageous and flat out ridiculous EXCUSES people are falling for!! WAKE UP PEOPLE!! KILLING A BABY IS KILLING A BABY.. NO EXCUSE IS GONNA CHANGE THAT!! If this does NOT pass do you realize how many babies will be killed because of CHOICE?!?! And you are ok with that?!?! Oh, let's wait and let them work out the kinks so we ALL can be pleased with how it is written.. all the while babies are being killed by the hands of their MOTHERS!! SERIOUSLY?!?! Have we become that society?? Where so called Christians care more about other peoples birth control and others things that we cannot firmly stand up for the voiceless??? As a believer in God, the Creator of all things, I cannot fathom Him sitting by and being OK with this decision!! In fact, I think He is appalled that we have stood by this long with the blood of some 53 million babies on our hands!! I don't think He is ok with us "waiting" while the bill is worded JUST RIGHT to OUR LIKING!! Oh my, God have mercy on us because I had more faith in humanity than this but I am now beginning to see that I really should not have... people I never in a million years would vote NO are doing so and it is literally breaking my heart!!

As I look at my little girl and the miracle she is and the blessing she has been to all those around her I cannot think of one single circumstance that would have made me choose NOT to have her.. I love her more than life itself and I would gladly give my own for her to live!! I choose to raise her with values that place human life over that of anything else in this world.. ANYTHING!! I would hope and pray that if a circumstance such as rape did happen that she would stand by her morals and would choose life! You can call me crazy but that is how much I value life!! It is not the baby's fault and he/she should NOT suffer for the crimes of the father!! Plus, my daughter would suffer much more if you add the emotional trauma and guilt that abortion would place on top of that!!

This is an issue where there are NO grey areas... Pro-LIFE or Pro-CHOICE! LIFE or DEATH.. YOU CAN'T BE JUST A LITTLE DEAD...  By voting NO you are voting Pro-Choice and that is just all there is to it! You can say that is not the case, I am not Pro-Abortion but by voting AGAINST the first bill to ever hit our state or nation that would do away with the issue you are so against then yes my friend, you are indeed voting to keep abortion alive and well..

I feel like I could just keep going but for the sake of writing a novel I will stop here! I have a Pro-Life argument for ANY Pro-Choice argument out there!! I just don't have the time to cover it all.

Honesty.. Is it still the best policy??

Honesty:

1.  honorable in principles, intentions, and actions; upright and fair: an honest person.

2.  showing uprightness and fairness: honest dealings.

3.  gained or obtained fairly: honest wealth.

4.  sincere; frank: an honest face.

5.  genuine or unadulterated: honest commodities.

First off, I do not have one particular person in mind while I write this.. this has happened to me with pretty much every body in my life at some point or another.. just needing some clarity on the subject.. get some feedback on how others view this as well.. 

With that said.. I have been thinking about honesty A LOT lately.. and how it is taught to us at a very young age, well, most of us anyway :) It then occurred to me that although it is something I was taught early on and have prided myself in being an honest person, I have found that I am not as honest as I once thought.. but I'm not sure if its a bad thing or maybe a good thing.. 

It is easy being honest when it comes to like taxes, applications, being honest in my marriage etc. things like that but in the everyday things.. the things that can hurt a person's feelings, a relationship that you hold dear, etc. those types of things are the ones that kill me.. the small things that get to you but you push to the side for the sake of others "peace" or "feelings" .. all the while pushing your "peace" and "feelings" to the back burner until eventually you are faced with THE decision.. to be honest or not be honest.. that really is the question!! 

Let's backtrack.. I can think of some times where honesty has really gotten me somewhere and turned a situation that wasn't so good into one that was.. on the other hand, I have been honest about my feelings and had them completely blow up in my face and lost precious people who were dear to me.. so I am not sure what MY best policy is. Do you hold it forever for the sake of feelings or do you get it out to save your sanity and possibly the relationship?!?!?!  It has been my experience that the longer I hold things in that bother me, more things tend to makes it way onto the list and I eventually withdraw myself completely/begin to not care anymore for the sake of not hurting people I care about. Again, not so sure if this is the right response or not.. How do ya'll deal? What do you do? I feel lost when it comes to these things.. 

I will say this though.. I would rather someone be honest with me up front about things that are bothering them, or they have done something they need to be truthful about or if I have done something to hurt them etc. because how can I fix something that I don't know needs fixing.. but not all people feel this way.. I realize that.. 

I feel as though I am babbling on now so I think I will end here.. sorry to be "Debbie Downer" but this has really been bothering me and a friend told me to blog about it so here it is.. 

I APPRECIATE ANY AND ALL ADVICE!!  :)  THANKS!

Exceeded my Goal!! Woohoo!!

I started the Wellness Center last Tuesday and I went everytime I was suppose to!! :) I have really enjoyed getting back into weight training and just exercise in general.. I am loving how it makes me feel and the level of energy I now have. I also experienced a "miracle" if you would like to call it that.. well, actually two miracles.. One being that my whole mindset on my weightloss has completely changed, in the greatest way possible! Before, I was wanting this weight off overnight and was almost willing to do anything to get it off that quick too.. but last week its as if God met me while I slept and when I woke up I no longer needed or wanted that. Yes, I still want to lose this weight and be the healthiest I can be but I now realize that its ok if I only lose the healthy 2 lbs a week to get there. If I eat how I know I am suppose to eat and workout the weight IS going to come off.. I am just enjoying being active again! Yay! My next miracle came yesterday.. let me back  track a little.. Saturday I went to workout and decided to hop on the treadmill.. Until then I had not been able to jog a full lap (1/4 mile) but I made it the whole lap Saturday and I was sooo excited. To many people this is not a lot but to me it was sooo much!! So now to yesterday.. apparently I have found my perfect speed and finally got my breathing down because I, Denise Dearman, jogged 1.5 mi without stopping!!!! This is HUGE for me!! I felt like I could conquer the whole world!! I have reached a new milestone that I never new I would ever reach! It felt like a million bucks! Now, I am loving to run.. I've found it quite addictive and couldn't wait til today when I could do it again and push myself even farther! I am so happy and excited with how it seems my life is changing for the better and I am at peace with it all. I can't wait til one day all the hard work and dedication pays off and I am who I know I can be! Watch out world! :)

My Favorite Girlie

 So the last few days have been mundane to say the least.. not much going on so not much to blog about :( Today was no different but I got inspired by an ENews newsflash on my phone earlier.. Mr. Jim Carrey himself blogged a profession of love to my most favorite funny girl in Hollywood, that's right Ms. Emma Stone!! If there is a movie made and she is in it then I watch it.. and she has yet to let me down!  I found it very funny but at the same time I could understand why one of the kings of comedy would profess his love for such a beautiful and real princess of comedy herself. After seeing it I wanted post a tribute blog to my favorite comedic girl!! I do believe that if we were to know each other we would be the greatest of friends! I really do admire her because  not only is she beautiful but  seems to be real & down-to-earth, which I happen to like that about people! So here's to you Ms. Stone!

How pretty :)

This is how I imagine she is in real life.. just laughing and having fun :)

Crazy, Stupid Love - loved this movie and loved her character Hannah and of coarse, Mr. Gosling :)

Easy A

Ghosts of Girlfriends Past

The House Bunny - still one of my favorite movies ever.. Brittney and I cried from laughing so hard in the theatre :)

Emm just being pretty

Superbad - although I didn't care for the movie.. I loved her!

The Help - BEST performance to date.. she did a phenomenal job playing Skeeter

The Rocker

Zombieland - One of my most favorite funny horror flicks

The Help

This afternoon we met up with the Parnells to eat supper and go to the movies. After a pleasing meal at ole Applebee's we headed to see The Help! I have not been able to read the book yet but I cannot resist seeing Emma Stone in a movie, much less a drama. Boy, was I NOT disappointed!! The movie was amazing! If it is half as good as the book then the book is outstanding! I was very pleased with how well the acting was carried .. it was a long movie but held my attention the whole time. It is definitely a must see for everyone! You will laugh, you will cry, you will sympathize, you will want to hit someone, you will think... it is just good!

Man, I Love A Good Deal

Wow! I have done a lot of fun stuff today! The hubs had to work late tonight so lil miss Addi and myself got around and off we went! We finally found a great home for the pup we found from our yesterday walk and we took her to her new family. :) We then set out on our journey to the mall.. I have finally ran out of my 3 bottles of Bath & Body Works hand soap and was in desperate need of more. There were sooo many good deals I just kinda went crazy.. good crazy though. :) I love it when I get to the register and I hear the cashier say "You know you can get two more things for free!" I was so happy, it made my day! So I went back and got more! Now, I don't think I will be running out for quite some time.. but I stocked up on all New Fall Fragrances and let me tell you.. they are to die for!! My favorite is the Creamy Pumpkin but I couldn't resist the Mint Chocolate because it is one of my favorite flavors to eat lol and to have my hands and house smell like that taste just makes me smile :) All this for $25.00!! Total savings of $20.50!! Woohoo!!

We went on to pick up some Redbox movies, then we headed home for a relaxing fun evening.
On another note, I made my very first tutu tonight and I am sooo pleased with how it turned out! Pics to come tomorrow.. so stay tuned! :)

Finally Got My Jogger!!

Blog from Thursday  August 18, 2011:

My husband surprised me with a jogging stroller travel system today!! Woohoo!! I have been wanting one for some time now but A LOT here lately. With our new found liking for walking/running it is now crucial that we have a jogger.. we nearly threw a wheel on my regular stroller :( We have been looking for the "right" one for a while and I came across this one on good ole Craigslist and we got a steal of a deal!! :) So here she is, the new beauty!

She glides like a dream too! Addi loved the ride and we enjoyed running with her! This thing is going to see many miles I do believe!! :)